There are some texts or emails I receive from people that feel like an interruption rather than a communication. When I receive one of these missives, they feel more like missiles, intended to disrupt. They interrupt my thoughts, and I find myself thinking… ugh.
I’m more apt to postpone a response to these than others. I am not sure what exactly defines them as interruptions. They tend to make me defensive or cranky.
Here’s an example from that came out of the blue the other day:
Good morning, earliest availability ?
There’s nothing inherently wrong with the text. However, I receive enough of these kinds of texts from the same source that I read it like this:
Good morning,EARLIEST AVAILABILITY ??!!!!!
I think, “They don’t really want to know if I’m having a good morning. They’re just using a pleasantry in order to get my attention and get on my schedule ASAP. (I have a lot of one on one meetings with people.)
I feel like he’s trying to muscle his way past others. It’s a text that feels like he’s “cutting in line.”
Why do I think/feel that? What classifies some texts/emails as "interruptions" while others are welcome distractions?
As I was mulling these thoughts over, it dawned on me… “I wonder who feels that way about my texts/emails?!” Heavens to Betsy, surely no one views my initiative to meet/communicate as an interruption?? I had never thought about it before, and that’s when it hit me…
We are all interrupters.
I have been quick to judge and view someone’s communication with me as an “interruption,” but I never thought about how someone might receive one of my communiques. I have always assumed that everyone is always delighted to hear from me. No one ever feels a negative emotion from one of my communiques.
Sigh. Yeah right.
I’m an interrupter too.
Resolved: When I feel like I’m being interrupted, as soon as I become aware of my own internal resistance, I will pivot and see the perceived interruption as an opportunity.
Very good point, and one to think on for sure,, how do my texts, emails come across to others,??? Am I communicating in a way that others feel loved, cared for, thought about, prayed for??? Am I asking how they are doing or just listing my problems,, complaints, trials,???? HMMMMMMM You got me thinking thats for sure.. Thank you,